Q: In 14 years, I have been married three times. The first marriage only lasted because we had a child. I couldn’t get out of the second fast enough. We won’t even discuss #3. I think I have met husband # 4 but I am guarded. How do I know all of these failed marriages aren’t my fault – what if #4 is already doomed before it even starts? A: Yup. You’re definitely broken. Unfixable. God made a mistake with you. NOT!!!!!!!! You are not doomed my love! You’re just a wee challenged like me and many of us in a relationship. Welcome to the planet! That’s what we’re all ultimately here for… relationship with self, with Source, with Other. Don’t judge yourself for marrying every man you’ve slept with (wink xoxo). Many people have way more failed relationships than you, they just haven’t made it official with marriage and divorce. So here’s your homework: What’s the lesson of husband #1? Did you learn it? Was it like me, feeling so insecure that you didn’t really see if he was a good mat