Question: I have been married for 10 years and to make my marriage work, I have changed a lot of things about myself. The problem is I don’t feel like me anymore – I feel like a shell of who I was, as if I gave away all of my power to make my husband happy. There has to be a balance that I am missing. Answer: Wow my love, I totally hear you. I’ve done the same. I would even cut the vegetables the way my first husband wanted so as not to be yelled at. I would hide my excitement if I got an audition, because he’d tell me don’t count your chickens before they hatched. My second husband, my son’s father, would (still) go to any new school, team, group, etc and tell them how crazy I was. I couldn’t figure out why people were so standoffish until 6 months into it, he raged at them for something and revealed his true nature. I became so doubtful, self critical, afraid of the world. So many of us pretzel ourselves into this crazy inauthentic configuration just to get attention, appreciation...