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Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - Instead of Mr. Right, be Ms. Right Now

A question came in from you about something I wrote in one of my newsletters (which if you don’t get them, sign up on my main page at www.AllanaPratt.com.)


Question: In your newsletter you mentioned that, instead of searching for Mr. Right, I should be Ms. Right for myself. What are three simple things I can do to start being Ms. Right for myself right now?


Answer: I decided to do a full video answer for you, yet in addition to what I recorded for you, here are some more insights…



Whenever we search, seek, etc., we are coming from lack. Something’s wrong with NOW and we’re going to FIX it. That makes us fixate on a partner to make us feel whole, which is the illusion. Happiness is a choice, and love, peace and joy are already who we are. When we seek another to complete us we often pretzel ourselves into someone we’re not to get them to like us or to stay. We put huge amounts of pressure on them to make us happy. This is often when we get hurt, manipulated, or we devalue the magnificence that we truly are by becoming strategic manipulators ourselves by trying to make someone want us.


However!!! There is another way!!! When we take the focus off from finding Mr. Right and become Ms. Right for ourselves, a huge internal transformation occurs where we start creating a life that rocks for us. We say no to what’s no longer a fit, be it our fashion, our job, or the people we hang out with that drain us… and we say, “yes” to what nourishes our soul. It may be switching from a hard core Bootcamp exercise regime, which really is you bashing your body with unkindness… to a joyous Zumba, belly dancing, or nature hiking group where you celebrate the growing strength, flexibility, and beauty of your body.


Then, when you are being YOU, by creating your own happiness as Ms. Right for you, you still desire a man and it’s from this place where he’ll be the icing on your cake, and you, the icing on his cake… not that he has to BE the cake, because you’re not enough on your own. You’ll be a sexy happy woman and a vortex for joy. He’ll feel no pressure to complete you, with the total space to be himself, and with ease, the right relationship for you will unfold with grace. Even the way you’ll write an online profile will be more about the life you’ll share vs trying to say the right thing to get the guy. This is normally when my clients say “It’s Raining Men!,” for you become quite literally, irresistible.


If this is an area you’ve done a good job in, yet you’re at a 9, ready to tip into a 10, ready for that last mile and requiring someone to tenderly, potently and deliciously hold your hand across the bridge into Ms. Right, you’re happy NOW, and completely irresistible to a great man when and if you choose, then contact my staff at admin@allanapratt.com to see if you qualify for one of my coaching programs, and for us to connect with you to see if I’m a fabulous fit for you. That step could be exactly what your soul has been asking for… you will know.


Great love,


Allana


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