Skip to main content

Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - I Think He Has Fallen Out of Love. How Can I tell?

You asked, “Allana, how do I know if he has fallen out of love with me?”

Screen Shot 2014-12-11 at 2.54.02 PM

Well first love, ‘cuz he says it. Have you sat down and asked? No seriously, do you have a consistent practice of communicating about tough issues, or even just checking in on what’s working and what’s not working in your relationship? Do you know what makes each other feel loved? Touch? Gifts? Communication? Acts of Kindness? Verbal praise? Many times when it feels our partner has fallen out of love with us, it has built up over time. Rarely is it an on/off switch, yes?

Thus, if you can have regular communication and be sure to nourish one another in a way that works for the other, it builds intimacy, honor, trust, gratitude and deepens the expansive love that’s possible between two people.

Second my love, you’d suspect that he’s fallen out of love if he isn’t kind, doesn’t touch you, doesn’t take interest in you, is degrading with comments, leaves you out of events, basically treats you with disrespect… and yet there are times when a separate issue is the cause of this…and you assume it’s you. For example, perhaps something’s going on at work, perhaps he’s become addicted to porn as his sexual connection, perhaps his parents are ailing and its bothering him… again this comes back to communication. Talk to him about what’s going on.

And when you talk, saying, “we need to talk” can be abrupt. Being accusatory doesn’t work. Nor does defensiveness. Nor does victim martyr behavior. Stand in your power and a huge open heart and connect to the love you have for you, and the love you have for him. Create an intention that you desire the conversation to be about: connection, authenticity, honor and exploration of what would increase the flow of love in your relationship.

In fact you could even say that you’d like to connect after dinner and have an authentic talk about what’s working, what’s not working and how more love could flow in your relationship. You could begin by praising him of all that is working for you and why you appreciate him. Then let him go. You could continue by saying you desire more “X”… and ask if that’s something he’d be willing to provide? Ask him what he’s like you to provide more of.

And if old patterns of defensiveness come up and this conversation is tough, yet you both really want this to work, then connect with me to hold space for you in a private coaching session. You’d be amazed at how safe it feels to have someone create a sanctuary to get to the real reason for the disconnect… create clear understanding for each party, and a plan to rebuild intimacy and take it beyond where either have you have ever experienced! Isn’t it great to know that’s possible? I’m here for you should that feel right. Trust your intuitive wisdom. Simply book your session at www.AllanaPratt.com/strategy and I’ll personally contact you to set up our time together.

Lastly, love isn’t 100% the same 24/7. There are ebbs and flows and that’s totally normal. It’s how we respond vs react when this happens, that determines whether the relationship breaks up, or moves onto something deeper, more rich, rewarding and intimate. I’d be honored to show you the way to deeper connection over time.

Great love,

Allana xoox

 

The post I Think He Has Fallen Out of Love. How Can I tell? appeared first on Allana Pratt.



via Allana Pratt https://ift.tt/2rNCJW5
Labels:

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

lynda - Jane Wurwand, Founder of Dermalogica, this week on Glambition Radio

Jane Wurwand is not only the founder of the #1 brand of skin care in the world, but she’s also changing women’s lives on a global level . I’m thrilled to have her as my guest on today’s episode of Glambition Radio . Jane (originally from the UK) and her husband launched their business back in 1983 in Marina del Rey, CA with $14,000, no bank loans and no investors. Today, Dermalogica boasts sales of more than $250,000 million a year and is sold in 86 countries around the world! It’s a true rags-to-riches story, and she tells all in our interview . What many people may not know about Jane is that she is also fighting to empower women all over the world. She founded FITE , Financial Independence Through Entrepreneurship, which invests in local grassroots initiatives to help women and girls become leaders . To date, her FITE program has helped fund more than 40,000 loans for women to start or grow businesses in over 65 countries! (Visit JoinFITE.org to see how you can get involved.) O
Post a Comment
Read more

SMART Goals 101: Goal Setting Examples, Templates, and Tips - Brian Tracy

I think you’ll agree with me when I say: We’ve all heard that SMART goals are important . But a lot of people are left with questions about them, for example: What exactly are they? How do we use them correctly? Are they really contributing to your success? Here’s the deal: When it comes to achieving success, one of the most important steps that you can take is setting good goals. It is also important to recognize, though, that not all goals are created equal. In this article, we’ll take a look at a special class of goals called SMART goals and how you can use them to heighten your chances of success. FREE SUCCESS TOOL: Brian Tracy’s 14-Step-Goal-Setting Guide What is a Goal? A goal can be any objective that you set for yourself and push yourself to achieve. Sometimes that goal may be small (like waking up an hour earlier than you normally do) and sometimes it may be larger (like earning a promotion). But here’s the kicker: While having goals of all kinds is almost
Post a Comment
Read more

bosanchez - The Bias of Fathers

One day, I was at a Christmas party. And parents were forcing their small kids to sing, bribing them with lollipops to banana splits to doll houses to Boracay vacations. One father — a friend of mine whose name I won’t divulge as it would be hazardous to my health — brought his little five-year-old daughter to the front. Because he even had a Minus One prepared, we thought, “She must really be a good singer.” So everyone clapped their hands and cheered as the music started. Then the five-year-old began to sing. Or at least made some kind of sharp noise.  But she didn’t get one key right. The cute little girl was absolutely tone deaf. From beginning to end, she sounded so awful, the experience was similar to having an endoscopy without the anesthesia. But the father was right beside me, still taking photos, still smiling from ear to ear, his eyes glued to his little daughter. He looked at me and smiled, “She may not sound right, but can you see how lovely she sways her hips?” Th
Post a Comment
Read more