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Allana - Do you know HOW to get what you really want?

How… how to get what you want?


I know it’s just semantics, but words hold power.


Say this to yourself. “I want a relationship.”


Feels like you’re creating from lack, from emptiness, from not having, huh? This puts you into grasping, pushing, trying, proving, strategizing and losing YOU in the process.


From this place you spin in your mind HOW HOW HOW am I going to MAKE this happen?


Quite often from there, after some failed attempts, is spins south into, What’s the point? It’ll never happen. Why try. I don’t need a relationship.


No you don’t.


Yet if you’re going to HAVE one you’re going to have to STOP wanting and START choosing.


Say this. “I choose a relationship.”


Doesn’t that feel lighter? Stronger? Happier? More expansive?


Does it even awaken a little fire in you? LIke, “I’m HAVING it. OH Yeh. Mine.”


From a place of choice instead of want… the energy in you is receptive, allowing, opening to truly having it now. All you do is close the gap.


Now instead of asking HOW HOW HOW… try instead… what’s it going to take?


Showing up? Getting out there enjoying your hobbies? Dating online? Getting stronger in your body? Healing from your past relationship? Coming to peace with sex and your body? Learning to ask for what you really choose to have? Saying no to behaviors and thoughts that sabotage you once you start to get close to someone? Telling the truth that you attract unavailable people and you’re ready to do your inner work to shift that?


See these are all actions you can take from KNOWING that you’re HAVING a relationship. Actions taken from certainty that you may not know who, when or where.. yet you KNOW you’re having it.


This allows you to enjoy the process and the gift when you receive your partner AND keeps you moving to keep expanding IN the relationship as well. It’s not a goal. They are not some commodity. You’re not going to be enough ONCE they arrive.


You’re the bomb NOW. Doing your work. Taking 100% responsibility. Showing up.


Or not.


Your choice.


I say choose it.


Your whole life is waiting for you to step into in this realm.


I’m here with open arms to deliciously cross the bridge to the next realm where you HAVE your Dreams.


Massive love! Allana


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