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Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - Surviving The Walk Of Shame

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Question: I am in my third year of college and just did my first “walk of shame”.  It was humiliating.  I could feel the eyes on me and the judgment.  There has to be a better way – this can’t be my college experience.

Answer: LOVE THIS QUESTION!!!

JUST talked to a client about this last week.

First, we are always at choice at how we see any situation.

I say choose the way the empowers you!

Thus we destroyed the whole idea of a Walk of Shame.

Instead we call it the Walk of Swagger for guys… the Walk of Sass for women… all based Gratitude for having consensual SEX!

According to the Kinsey Institute, about 75% of single females and 50% of single guys haven’t had sex for a year!

SEX IS FABULOUS!!! Touch is healing. There is no reason to be ashamed about a glorious experience of pleasure!

Just because you don’t want to marry the person doesn’t mean you need to sneak away thinking either of you did something wrong.

How demeaning to the passion and deliciousness that was exchanged!

Just be straight, upfront, grateful and honest.

Now, if you wake up with a different stranger every morning for the past 3 months, I’d suggest some coaching for you’re trying to fill a void in your heart with external validation.

Yet after a wonderful night of pleasure, waking up alone can really sting, but a grateful kiss or beautiful note of blissful appreciation saying Thank you… makes the transition easier, and it’s far classier.

When will people have the courage to be straight with one another, honor and celebrate the beauty of their sexual-ness, and stop judging one of the most glorious expressions of pleasure on the planet!?

I say honor your partner by talking straight about expectations, no games or manipulations, be authentic, be safe, and definitely have WAY too much fun! Life is challenging enough, celebrate the beauty of connection.. and walk away nourished, filled, opened and appreciated, with a little spring in your step.

All my love,

A.

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