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Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - How do I go from friendship to lover and should I risk it?

How do I go from friendship to lover and should I risk it You wanna know something? I’ve never done this. I’ve always known I wanted to take someone to bed right away. And either did. Or was shot down and didn’t.


I’ve never ever gone from friendship to lover… and yet I do know people who were friends for years and then one day… they looked at one another differently and whoosh… timing aligned, lives aligned, and one became single again… and sparks flew.


So in terms of HOW to shift from friends to lover… it may sound trite but just be real and tell the truth. How is living your truth a risk? Why would being authentic be a risk? If they are truly a friend, why would there be a concern for being real?


To me it would be much more contractive, painful, inauthentic and awful to lie, to withhold, to pretend and be fake.


If they say no, you are still you, fabulous and amazing.


If they say yes, you are still you, fabulous and amazing.


Stop letting either yes or no define you. Be sure to check in, are you giving them all the power? Are you letting them be the source of your worth?


So the great thing is, if they are a yes… then now your amazing connection gets to share copulation as well! If they are a no… then they are flattered, you got stronger in your vulnerability, and your energy is freed up to let that sexual energy wander to find a new partner, with which, to share your delicious self!


Trust in the No’s as much as the Yes’s… sometimes a No from one person opens the door to a Yes from someone right around the corner… you are always held and guided and your request is always heard… just keep showing up to receive it all, often more than you could ever imagine.


I see being real, authentic, honest and bold as nothing but a gift to your life… you showing up in your potency… you penetrating life with amazing you, playing with everyone who’s up for playing… allowing yourself to have as much joy, pleasure, fulfillment and yumminess as possible.


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