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Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - I CAN’T TELL THEM THAT…Express the Truth!!!

Loved being at Penny Slingers land, such a sacred redwood grove! To me, nothing is worse than being fake, or withholding, or twisting yourself into a pretzel to be around someone. It’s curious how I used to give away my power and not speak my truth, for if I did I would get yelled at. I learned to mince my words or be a top notch people pleaser to feel safe.


Yet the sad thing was, in choosing to NOT be me, I kept attracting people that liked NOT me and had to keep NOT expressing my truth to not be abused or made wrong.


The bold awareness for me was to recognize I was doing this, be kind to myself that it’s all I learned to survive growing up, that I could make a new choice and that I had the courage to let go of people who truly didn’t honor me, and go find some that did.


Now as I made these changes over time, I ended marriages, quit jobs, moved around the world… there were times of aloneness… yet the greatest GIFT in that was that I found I wasn’t lonely in my aloneness. I WAS THERE with ME. GOD was there with ME. NATURE was there. ONENESS was there.


I began to see these ‘mean’ people as my springboards from which to soar into my self esteem and true connection with the ALL. If it weren’t for them dishonoring me, I would never have chosen to honor me and dive into the limitless honor and celebration of me that the Universe holds for me!


It turns out no one ever had power over me at all! I had given it away and I could choose again and take it back and swim moment to moment through the billions of molecules of existence that had my back and were showering me with gratitude… I just had to shift my point of view.


Now it doesn’t happen all at once. And it’s simple but not easy. Yet begin by noticing when you don’t speak your truth. Ask yourself if the person you’re with has the capacity to hear you or not. If not, let it go, you’re asking for the impossible and setting yourself up to be abused. Let go. Then ask, what would it take for ME to hear me in this moment? to honor me in this moment? to respect and have gratitude for me in this moment? Then ask What would it take for me to create a job/relationship/environment/world where I am heard, honored and celebrated for being me? And take one step at a time. Stop choosing to be abused. Start choosing to honor you as you would the most precious animal, flower or sunrise…


And if you require someone to hold space as you make these triumphant precious steps, it would be my pleasure… for as the mighty redwoods stand in groves… I am here for you to witness your glory. Yum. Great love, Allana xoox


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