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Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - When she says goodbye, yet you don’t want her to go….

Me on the rocks at Lake Tahoe, where's my paddle board Ahhh… sweet man, she’s saying goodbye yet you don’t want her to go. I am so sorry. This can hurt, yes? That bright light that lit up your world, gone. That energy of praise and beauty and joy, void, yes?


Ahhh… I am not sure the circumstances of her departure… yet ask some questions here…what’s the gift in her leaving? what’s right about that? what’s possible now that wasn’t possible before? Sometimes a season has come to a close and you are both better off moving on, rather than staying and making each other wrong for being exactly who you are…


Sometimes it’s right for you are more interested in the IDEA of her rather than the real HER… the idea of a companion rather than the woman who was living with you. Perhaps it’s a time to get more clear about what you really desire in a partnership, a time to be bold and speak your truth and create a deal that honors ALL of you not just some of you. Perhaps you cut off a portion of you and now you have a chance to claim it back and KEEP it alive with a new partner who adores that part of you!


Sometimes what’s right is that it’s time for you to find peace in your aloneness, or heal from something you’ve always skipped over and used a new relationship to numb this pain. Sometimes what’s right about her leaving is the unwillingness to participate in the drama of getting back together/breaking up/getting back together/breaking up… that pleasure/pain addiction that leads no where.


Sit in the fire. Breathe through the discomfort. Start asking what’s the gift in this moment. Keep that jurassic heart of your OPEN so that you HEAR your wisdom and can birth the next level of strength and compassion for yourself and life… and ask how could all this unfold beyond my imagination, beyond my dreams, beyond this reality, beyond my expectations? Stay open to miracles and know you created this and can create anything you choose. Sending you great love, soft arms of tenderness, bold knowing of your courage, and limitless love for you on your journey, Allana xooxo


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