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Allana Pratt, Intimacy Expert - What do you really want in a man…the bad boy or the nice guy?

Forest Sorceresss stopping for lunch and wielding spells... Ahhh…ladies… my delicious sisters… what do we really want in a man… the dark bad boy who will claim us in rapture… or the nice guy who’s tenderness softens our edges into bliss?


Um…. both.


Don’t you? That’s what I choose. I choose a man who embraces all his sexual energy (and commit to awakening all of mine so as to mirror this contribution to him!!) When I say ‘all his sexual energy’ I mean for him to span the wide spectrum of masculine and feminine energy in his being… just like I will with him. Sometimes he is a softer, tender, caring energy… makes me my coffee in the morning… touches my cheek as he walks by, sends me a love note…


Sometimes he’s more directional, booking my plane flight, organizing things for me, guiding my choices so as to most honor my creative juices… other times I don’t want him to care what the shit I think, just grab me and do me right there. Yes!?


Sometimes the same holds true for me, I want to be his soft breast to land upon, or I desire to cook a meal for him and create a nourishing home or meal… other times I desire to tell him exactly what I want him to do, from fix the hinge on the door, to F&%# me tonight and pick up take out cuz I’m not cooking… or he can just have ME for dinner!


A willingness for ourselves to play with dark and light, our receptive and directional energies… seems to attract a partner also ready willing and able to play in these energies… and a willingness to be in allowance of each other as you find the matches, do the dance and experience the unknown together will make it more enjoyable. Remember you don’t need approval to be enough, you are allowed to try things that don’t work and giggle, then try something else! You’re allowed to be vulnerable and raw and share your true desires knowing if they agree or disagree, it has nothing to do with your inherent worth or beauty.


So I say go for a man who’s energies are broad… be broad, wide, deep and curious about your own sexual nature… and enjoy all that’s possible in the unknown mystery of the dance of life… all of life is an opportunity to create beauty, to create ritual, to embrace and savor the deliciousness… to be grateful for… let me know how this unfolds sister! xoxoox A


p.s. and lastly, most men I coach say a woman who keeps surprising him, naughty one night, reverent the next, offering her tapestry of energies to herself first… and to him as a gift… makes you irresistible… xoxo A


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