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Allana - Are You OK With Who You Are, In Your Relationship?

Enjoy this Relationship article about wow-ing your S.O.’s parents… I like the advice I gave and enjoyed the other contributors as well.


I am reminded of my past two marriages. The first time I met my first husband’s parents, we were flying there and I was dressed all funky and for the first time ever, he questioned my style. Are you going to wear that? (I always wore this.) Wear what? That cross necklace. (It was in the days of Madonna craze and it was this fabulous huge cross necklace that I adored.) He said, Well it looks like you’re making fun of religion. (wha?) Could you take it off?


I know. I know. Red flag. I would see that NOW yet back then it just felt like the energy of Dad being drunk and forgetting what we spoke of the night before and I trying to do whatever it would take to win his favor, anything to be in his good books, anything to feel loved.


So I took off the necklace and ended up playing with all the nieces and nephews the whole trip… the only ones I could relate to who didn’t judge me. We did parades with ALL my jewelry from backpacking through Asia and LOVED it until I got in trouble for letting the boys wear necklaces. Boys don’t do that.


Jeez….


And so long story short, please oh please be you. And do your best to see the red flags early, if who you are isn’t OK to the parents, then at some point who you are isn’t going to be ok in the relationship and better find that out now then years down the road when there are kids and it’s harder to leave.


And if you need a loving, safe place to talk about this, to someone who will tell you straight and hold you tender if it hurts… I can be that person. And if you get there and his/her parents say something and he/she sticks up for you and tells them to lay off and go make dinner… then you’ve got a keeper! Either way let me know how it goes.


Know I luv ya, deliciously, Allana oxox


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