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bosanchez - Specify What You Want

 

I love talking to kids.

Especially tiny ones.

When I ask kids age 3, 4, or 5, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” the most common answer I get is, “I don’t know.” Which is understandable.  They’re still figuring out what they want in life.  (But I keep asking this question anyway to help them start envisioning their future.)

But when I ask adults in their 30s, 40s and 50s what they want in life, the most common answer I get is still, “I don’t know.”

Half of their life is over and they still don’t know what they want.

Here’s the problem: If you want nothing, you get nothing.

Oftentimes, when I ask single women what they want, the answer is, “To get married!”   I’ve met many single women who’s simple prayer is, “Lord, give me a husband.”

So I ask them, “Any husband? Isn’t that too general?” And with a laugh, they answer, “Yes, Bo.  I’m desperate.  Any husband will do.”

And that’s what they get: Any husband.

Which is pretty dangerous if you ask me.

 

You Get What You Settle For

 

One the craziest e-mails I’ve ever received was from a single woman who wrote, “Brother Bo, I caught my boyfriend cheating on me twice with another girl.  What should I do?  Should I break up with him? But the thing is, he’s really a good person.”

I wrote back, “But he was unfaithful to you twice!”

In another e-mail, a single woman asked me, “Brother Bo, my boyfriend is a drunkard.  When he gets drunk, he gets violent and beats me up.  What should I do?  Because when he’s not drunk, he’s a really good person.”

For some people, “Good” means someone who doesn’t kill you with a butcher knife.

When you pray for a spouse, don’t just ask for a “good” husband or a “good” wife.  Because “good” can mean so many things.

Be specific!

Say, “I want a husband who is faithful.  A husband who is responsible.  A husband who is financially stable.  A husband who is free from addictions and alcoholism…”

I can hear you now: “But Bo, you’ve just scratched off 99% of the men I know!”

Then that simply means you’re hanging out with the wrong crowd.

Here’s my message: Don’t settle!

Because you get what you settle for.  (I discuss this more fully in my new book which will come out this February, How To Avoid Jerks And Jerkettes.)

 

How Much Do You Want?

 

Hey, I found that this works with money as well.

Here’s my belief: God has programmed His entire creation to give us what we clearly and specifically ask for.

So if you ask, “Give me money,” God’s creation will be asking, “How much?”

The universe could deliver to you 25 centavos or P25 Million.  Both are money.  So be specific.

Each year, I write down a financial goal.  In fact, I know how much I’ll be earning every single year for the next 20 years.  I pray for it every day.

From my experience, God’s universe responds to someone who passionately knows what he wants and wants it with specificity.  Don’t ask in ignorance.  Ask with knowledge.

Know what you want.

Define it.

Be specific.

And don’t settle.

Many people ask for nothing.

And consequently, they end up getting it.

 

May your dreams come true,

Bo Sanchez

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