Question: My wife isn’t a very affectionate woman and I have come to accept that with hope maybe she will change over time. 11 years later and she still gets really uncomfortable if I try to cuddle with her, hold her hand, or sit next to her. What gives? Answer: Holy holy you have been patient my friend! I truly honor you for how much you love your wife and your willingness to stay open and hope that she will change over time. And yet in the same breath, it sounds like you have been going without your needs being met for over a decade, yes? That’s got to be draining, debilitating and potentially brewing with resentment… or looking elsewhere for touch? Has some trauma occurred where her body was violated and she’s never done the work to heal? Did she grow up in a strictly religious family where touch was shamed? Did something happen early on in your marriage where trust was broken? Do you have the hands of a gorilla? KIDDING Please continue to not judge her and stay curious and op